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Queer Life and Culture

My Pride Experience – Challenges of Pride

Welcome to My Pride Experience! My Pride Experience is a series where contributors share their experiences with Pride celebrations. These can be good, bad, or in between. Join us on our journey to discover how Pride is celebrated and experienced by members of our own community. Do you want to share your own Pride experience? Contact us at fashionablyfemme [at] gmail.com Challenges of Pride By Christine Farina It’s Pride Month, one of ...
Books

Queer Book Corner – Drum Roll, Please by Lisa Jenn Bigelow

By Eti Berland I’ve never wanted to go to camp. As a shy introvert who appreciated the comforts of home, the prospect of living in the woods at the mercy of the elements, insects, & other kids filled me with dread. But after reading Drum Roll, Please by Lisa Jenn Bigelow, I think I may have to reevaluate my life choices. I wish I could have experienced a magical, transformative summer that helped me find my voice, like Melly does. It may ...
Queer Life and Culture

I Have One Word for My Queer Students and Queer Former Teachers

By Stephanie Johnson The world has changed a lot from when I was a teenager. At 36, an “elder millennial” if you will, I feel like I was at the front edge of where it was getting more acceptable to be more “out and proud” in school. Of course, a lot of that didn’t apply to my private Catholic high school (ask me some day about the poor girl who shaved her head and was forced to wear a wig until it grew out enough to be deemed ...
Femme Features

Femme Feature – Hayley

WELCOME!  Welcome to Femme Features. Femme Features is a series featuring femmes from all nooks of the LGBTQIA community. These rocking folks are activists, educators, bosses, parents, entrepreneurs, and all sorts of amazing human beings. Join us as we explore femme identity as so much more than a label, but truly a way of life. You can check out all of our queer femme fashion, lifestyle, and activist profiles here. Hayley is ...
Queer Life and Culture

Gatekeeping and Ace Allyship

By Denois Gatekeeping in the LGBT+/queer community seems to be a perennial problem and currently a lot of efforts seem to be expended around pushing asexual (and sometimes aromantic, for those that use the split attraction model) people out of the community. However, I believe that gatekeepers are actually a small part of the community and what’s more common is that people have misconceptions about asexuality. Strictly speaking, ...
Queer Life and Culture

Gatekeeping in the LGBTQ Community

By Ari Levine. In many ways, the LGBTQ+ community is amazing. We are diverse, proud, and beautiful. But unfortunately, some parts of the community are excluded from spaces or conversations due to gatekeeping within the community. Sometimes it’s in little ways, sometimes in open ways. Today, let’s talk about all those ways and how we can support our fellow community members. Not “X” Enough One of the most common forms ...
Queer Faces

Queer Faces – Anna Olver

Queer faces is an ongoing series on Fashionably Femme. The goal is to highlight queer artists and professionals, to put a face to their art, and help promote them and their work. By Zoë Mikel-Stites In April, Dannie and I sat down with Anna Olver to discuss her artwork, and how the development of her own genderqueer identity has both influenced and been reflected in it. Anna identifies as genderqueer and demisexual, but says that the term ...
Queer Life and Culture

Queer Identity and Tattoos – An Interview with Jordan Lentz of Copperplate Tattoo

As promised in our post about Queer Identity and Tattoos, here’s an interview with Chicago-based queer tattoo artist Jordan Lentz. Jordan can be found at Copperplate Tattoo in Chicago. For contact info, please check out her Instagram bio. Our creative director Dannie has been tattooed by Jordan and highly recommends her to anyone looking for super realistic nature work. Tell us about yourself – you, your work, your story, ...
Books

Queer Book Corner – The Cardboard Kingdom by Chad Sell

By Eti Berland When you’re a kid, is there anything more magical than cardboard? It holds endless potential to become whatever you can imagine. It gets even better when you can share that experience with a friend who accepts the imagined worlds you’ve created and together, you journey to lands beyond. The evergreen concept of kids making things from common objects has been given new life in the 2018 middle grade graphic novel, The Cardboard ...
Queer Life and Culture

What is Bisexual Culture?

By Zoë Mikel-Stites A few months ago I sat in my friend’s basement surrounded by queer, non-binary, bisexual and pansexual friends. We had pooled the pizza money and red wine and settled in to the couch to talk about our experiences in the middle of our respective spectrums. At the end of the night, after commiserating, comparing, discussing and hugging over our shared space between definitions, Kimberly posed a question to the group: ...