Fashionably Femme | Makeda
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Makeda rocks a unique style that I fell in love with the moment we met to shoot! From amazing and bold hair all the way down to little details like earrings, Makeda makes an authentic statement we can all get behind.
I would call myself a fairly laid back person. Though my style leans more toward the gothic, which is usually pretty dramatic as far as statement pieces and clothing choices go, I prefer comfort over anything else. If it looks cute and I can wear it all day, maybe even fall asleep in it? That’s the dream. Unfortunately, they don’t make cross chokers and combat boots to be comfortable.
My major style inspiration started with Marilyn Manson, if you can believe it! As I started identifying more as femme and working on looking more “womanly” I drew my inspirations from pin up girls, starting with the infamous Bettie Paige and going from there. My current style inspiration is Melanie Martinez, she has this goth lolita baby thing going on, with crazy two toned hair and giant bows. She makes me want to experiment more with color.
My style change over the years has been…I wouldn’t say drastic, but there was a point in my life where I couldn’t stand to be in a dress. It didn’t feel like me. When I traded in my parachute tripp pants for high waisted shorts and petticoats, it actually opened more avenues for me to express myself.
My #1 favorite piece in my closet is my Harry Potter scarf; it’s a full drawing of the Maurauder’s Map. I’m a Harry Potter fanatic! My other favorite piece is a dress I found at Taboo Taboo, a cream colored cotton dress with big purple roses and leaves with a sweetheart neckline. It breathes, it’s short, and I can combine it with either purple makeup to match or change up the accessories to something more dramatic if I’m going for a more natural face. But my pride and joy are my corsets. I have two steel boned waist cinchers, one plain black and the other is covered in buckles and all sorts of metal hardware, which I can wear with a spiked bra and leave the house looking like some sort of dominatrix terminator. But that’s only sometimes.
My femininity as it relates to my sexuality is tied up in my breasts, as strange as that might be. I spent a long time not even feeling very feminine, femininity to me is softness and kindness and delicate flower type stuff. That definitely isn’t who I am. I had a lot of body dysphoria, I hated my breasts and my vagina and hoped I could change them to something else. But one day…I don’t know how the flip came over, but I touched my body and really took a moment to experience my curves and soft parts and I realized that I could still have the lusher parts of myself and embrace them while still valuing the parts of myself that I felt were more masculine. I switch in bed and when I top someone, I feel in touch with my masculine side, super powerful and in charge. When I bottom, I feel more in tune with my feminine side, it’s just a different rush of power, more deferential. But accepting my femininity in body, mind, and style has really been the best thing I’ve done for my self image. The sky’s the limit!
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