Fashionably Femme | Gracey | Librarian Chic
Welcome to Femme Features. Femme Features is a blog series featuring femmes from all nooks of the LGBTQIA community. These rocking folks are activists, educators, bosses, parents, entrepreneurs, and all sorts of amazing human beings. Join us as we explore femme identity as so much more than a label, but truly a way of life.
Today’s feature is particularly special for me. Gracey and I met studying libraries abroad in London in 2013 (oh gosh has it been that long already?!). You know those people who you meet them and you’re just thinking “oh man, we’re friend soul mates!” That’s Gracey for me. We may live in vastly different parts of the country but we still manage to see each other.
Gracey | Librarian Chic
When I was a teen I was very much an angry-punk-baggy-clothes-dark-colors girl. Those clothes were both a battle armor against my anxiety and exceedingly comfy. I’ve carried through the need for comfy clothes and my view of them as battle armor to my current style. In recent years I’ve gotten more interested in fashion and finding clothes that accentuate the features of myself that I like.
I dove hard into the librarian-look when I joined the profession, loving especially the comfortable cardigans.
I’ve struggled with anxiety and body acceptance for many years. I’ve disliked the proportions of my hips and butt because they made it difficult to find clothes that fit, looked good and were comfortable. I’ve started wearing more dresses and skinny/stretchy jeans that fit all three categories and have come to (mostly) love my proportions. I try to reflect that now in the clothes I wear as a reminder to myself that I’m growing stronger and more accepting of myself.
I can’t really point to a single place for inspiration. When I see a style I like on someone else I assess it’s applicability to myself and if I think it could be fun to try I file it away for possible use later. That sounds rather clinical, but it’s just a matter of interest and intuition when I actually do it.
My favorite pieces are things like the floral bottom, navy top dress I wear in this blog post. It’s shape accentuates my curves and it includes dark colors with a feminine twist via the flowers. I have another black floral dress (more of an occasion piece) that I love for the same reason. I also love boots. I love combat style, ankle booties, and the ones I wear in this post. I like them because they’re comfortable, can be worn with any style, masc or fem, and I feel like I could kick someone’s ass in them.
As a teen and into college I hid my femininity. I didn’t want to accept my body and I didn’t understand my sexuality so I tried to ignore them both. As I’ve come to understand my sexuality it’s helped me embrace my femininity and also my lack thereof. I’m more comfortable wearing both masc and fem clothes now than I ever was before, and I can enjoy the fashion of my battle armor in a way I couldn’t before. Partly, that’s because I actually think about it less. My criteria are simple now: is it comfy? And do I like how it looks on me? If those two are met, I feel more confident, stronger, and generally like I can kick some ass.
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