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is a long time friend of Dannie’s. She’s a New York City model (so photogs, hit her up!) and an overall spectacular human being! Let’s read this girl’s amazing story.
I strive for comfortable and cute – how I tend to view myself and my personality in general. But I’m also a creative, so sometimes my emotions or thoughts play a role in how I express my style. (I should mention that I’m the kind of person where if my room is messy, so is my brain – and those days I tend to struggle with what to wear and how to express myself.) Most days I feel like I dress fairly middle-of-the-road road and neutral now. I like simple, chic, but not overly trendy outfits. But there are definitely days where I just want to stand out, so I’ll wear something colorful, do something unique with my hair, or wear a bold lip.
Instagram and all around me are my main sources of inspiration, not just for style. But style, like any art form, evokes emotion so I find that if I see something I like (or don’t like), I try to figure out why it affects me that way and how I should approach that myself.
I also refer to Pinterest a lot – especially on how to style and wear things I already have.
I feel like I always taken something from trends, but made it mine. My closet used to be a lot more colorful, but now, mostly out of necessity, it’s become pretty neutral and toned down. I still definitely have some bright and bold pieces, but I’ve been trying to minimize and create sort of a “capsule” collection of things I can mix and match.
I’ve definitely gone through phases, where in high school I was pretty “emo” for a while a d loved band tees, but then started dressing more preppy. In college I oscillated between very girly and somewhat masculine, you could say.. to get to where I am now, where I feel like my style is still a collection of my past, but more refined.
Since I got my all-white sneakers from Mossimo, I feel like I’ve been wearing them daily. They’re super comfortable, trendy, and can basically go with anything.
I also love my Girlfriend Collective leggings (I have 3 pairs now) and I try to wear them at least a few times a week – they’re the greatest pair of leggings I’ve ever owned. You can seriously wear them with anything, anywhere. (The only thing is that they’re still a little “sporty” looking with the side stitching, but that hasn’t stopped me from wearing them for a night out.)
And, of course, my t-shirts. Again, versatile and comfortable. Did I mention I like being cute and comfortable? Depending on the style of the tee, I like to dress it up, switch it up by knotting it at my waist or just wearing it as it.
My (short) hair has definitely played a huge role in my femininity and sexuality. I’ve never had “long” hair – throughout high school, I played with edgy haircuts that were between chin and mid-neck length, but at the beginning of college I got bold and cut it all off. I love my short hair and don’t think I’ll ever be able to have long hair (besides it being a real struggle for me to grow it), but there have definitely been days where I was concerned with how people viewed me because of it. In the earlier years, when short hair wasn’t “popular,” I had to fight through some of the insecurities and would compensate by dressing more feminine or wearing more make-up – I feel like I still do that sometime, unintentionally, but now I do it for me. I’ve really had to learn to be ok with people making assumptions (mostly about my sexuality, because that tends to be a sterotype), and to let that be an opportunity to educate and talk about my experience.
But I do feel like my femininity and sexuality, somewhat hand in hand, oscillate between two spectrums. I’m a pretty sexual person, but I don’t tend to express that outwardly a lot, not until you get to know me – I see myself as “cute” if anything, but I do know how to tiptoe to the more sexual end quickly. Same with femininity. I straddle a line, I follow and do a lot of things that are traditionally feminine, but I’m not afraid to do or be otherwise if it suits me in that moment.
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