Kimberly, Goth Style Meets Unicorn Bride | Fashionably Femme
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I’ve been so pumped to bring you Kimberly’s shoot for ages now. They came to me through mutual friends and also knows past feature, Makeda. The look featured here is, get this, their wedding look! Talk about the greatest statement ever. This skirt was custom made just for them and is easily one of the coolest garments I’ve ever photographed. Make that better by making the human being wearing the skirt a genuinely kind and wonderful person. I’m thrilled to present Kimberly to you guys today. And to congratulate them (once again) on their recent wedding. Let’s get to it!
Fashionably Femme – Kimberly
I use my style to express who I am: a chaotic amalgamation. I’m part goth, fairy, yogi, unicorn, painter, lawyer and tomboy; and those parts fluctuate daily. No part of me is static. No part of me stays the same from day to day. Just like Clementine’s hair from Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, I “apply my personality in a paste”; everything from a torn up rocky horror tshirt and jeans to a fancy bodycon dress (usually with high heeled combat boots). Who I am grows, adapts and dissolves and so does my style.
Do I have style crushes? Oh gawd, absolutely. First and foremost, I am constantly inspired by my friends’ bold fashion choices and consistent decisions to be authentic in this world. As for celebrity designers, I am deeply jonesing these days for Alexander McQueen, Anna Sui and Ann Demeulemeester. Their pieces show a disregard for not only typical runway wear but, more importantly to me, traditional gender roles. I still have quite a fondness for Betsey Johnson; the designer I grew up on as I navigated how I wanted to express being femme. I am instinctively drawn her bright eye-catching vibrant colors mixed with dark gothic hues and structure.
I’ve changed over the years; from a very closeted queer femme growing up in Orange County, California to openly living my truth. In turn, my style has grown along with me. Much like a snake, with each period of growth, I shed the old me and form something new. When I was younger I was so afraid to be myself; in life and in fashion. I wore things because everyone else did. I so dearly wanted to be normal that I hid in someone else’s shoes, literally. Today, I never leave the house in something that isn’t me. Even as a professional (I’m an attorney), I bring pieces of me into the workplace (e.g. skull studded button ups, my side-shaven head, and etc.) because I have fought too long and too hard to ever hide who I am again.
I go through favorite periods rather than [favorite] pieces. Right now, I’m definitely in a Fall phase. As this is my first fall in New England, I feel practically giddy about anything and everything seasonal. Pumpkin pies and pumpkin ales, and in turn, flannel dresses and furry (faux) scarves. As the season turns and the leaves change color, I find myself responding and mirroring in autumnal patterns. One thing that I’m particularly excited about right now is exploring more stereotypical masculine looks with a dash of my femme side. For example, pairing a pearl snap button-up collar shirt with booty shorts or a mini skirt with an overly large plaid sweater. I’m excited to see where this all goes as I feel myself more and more drawn to questioning my gender identity as a woman.
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