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Queer Life and Culture

Queer Identity and Tattoos

By Dannie Levine Tattoos have always been part of one’s identity. From its beginning, the history of tattoos has been inherently rooted in showcasing one’s identity to the world. For some, it’s showing cultural aspects of their life. For others, they are memorials and more. They’re also a huge part of queer identity with some awesome history that carries queer tattoo culture into present day. Queer Identity and ...
Queer Life and Culture

Dating While Bisexual

By Ari Levine I came out to most of my friends at 23, and to my parents at 24, but I knew I wasn’t straight long before that. I didn’t stay in the closet for the reasons you usually hear, though. What kept me in the closet was biphobia. Dating a Bisexual Person and They Didn’t KnowI dated men exclusively from age 17 through 23 and not once did I tell them that I was bisexual, not even the guy I dated for nearly three years. ...
Queer Life and Culture

What People Miss in Their Queer Loved Ones’ Lives

By Bryant Harland Content Warning: Homophobia, Transphobia Chicago Pride 2018 is in the top-10 happiest moments of my life. I fully embraced the Hot Topic-mall-goth-femme aesthetic that I’d always wanted, but had never had the courage to go outside in. What can I say? My sleek red-and-black dress, femme docs, and black shawl just make me feel so damn good. I was surrounded by friends from all over the queer community, and – although a ...
Lifestyle, Queer Life and Culture

National Coming Out Day: A Guide for Allies and Queers Alike

By Dannie Levine Coming Out is Hard I shared my own coming out story last year for National Coming Out Day. And as someone who is out as part of my blogging life, that’s a relatively easy story for me to share. But for others, it can be really really hard or even unsafe to come out. So this year, I’ve crafted a guide with the help of my queer fam to help you if you’re coming out, or if someone chooses to come out to you. ...
Lifestyle, Queer Life and Culture

Queer Activism – Being the Change

By Dannie Levine People ask me constantly why I blog. What’s my purpose, what’s my niche, what do I do with this little corner of the web I’ve created. And the answer is really simple when I step back and look at it. I’m embodying the adage “be the change you wish to see in the world.” There’s so much BS in the world, so much inequality and horrid treatment of everyone who doesn’t fit into a ...
Lifestyle, Queer Life and Culture

Why Lipstick Lesbian is a Problematic Phrase

By Dannie Levine It’s National Lipstick Day which means it’s time for me to smash some more ideas and thoughtless ideas. Today we’re tackling the phrase “lipstick lesbian” and why it’s so problematic and why you really shouldn’t use it ever. Like, ever again. It’s antiquated and heteronormative af. It comes from this heteronormative need to label and classify everything that mainstream society ...
Lifestyle, Queer Life and Culture, Style

Femme Style as Politics and Attitude | My Outfit is My Statement

Is style political? Absolutely. When we get dressed in the morning, the clothing we put on is the armour we wear to face the world. It can (and should be!)  be a means of self expression, but it often also makes a political statement. When a certain famed talk show host tells the world that you shouldn’t wear a crop top if you have a tummy, any time a tummy owner wears one they are making a statement in direct contrast. Any time Alok ...
Lifestyle, Queer Life and Culture, Style

Wife Life | Body Positivity and Mass Media

By Ari Levine I Feel Pretty (But Only After a Concussion) – Body Positivity isn’t a Joke Recently, trailers for a new Amy Schumer movie have taken over my social feeds. The movie — which I’m not linking because I don’t want to give them the views or traffic– focuses on Schumer’s character hitting her head in a SoulCycle class and suddenly seeing herself as beautiful and being confident in her body for the first time, ...
Lifestyle, Queer Life and Culture

My Femme Isn’t Weak. Your Inability to Accept it is.

By Dannie Levine My Femme Isn’t Weak. Your Inability to Accept it is. In my teen and college years, I dated men. I know, the most vocal, confident, and proud lesbian of them all dated men. Would you believe it’s because I thought I was supposed to? Sure I knew I wasn’t entirely straight. I mean have you seen Kiera Knightley? [fans self] But I didn’t fit into any of the stereotypes I’d seen of queer women. I wasn’t the proud owner of a closet ...
Lifestyle, Queer Life and Culture, Style

Women’s History Month and Femme Identity | Celebrating ALL Women

By Dannie Levine It’s Women’s History Month! Over at Stile.Foto.Cibo we love celebrating Women’s History Month, but our team is made up of cisgendered women, so it’s a celebration created with us in mind. And that’s alright! Women’s history is definitely something to celebrate. It’s a long and arduous road that we’ve come down to get where we are, and there’s still a long road ahead of us  to get where we deserve to be. A large part of ...