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Queer Activism – Being the Change

By Dannie Levine People ask me constantly why I blog. What’s my purpose, what’s my niche, what do I do with this little corner of the web I’ve created. And the answer is really simple when I step back and look at it. I’m embodying the adage “be the change you wish to see in the world.” There’s so much BS in the world, so much inequality and horrid treatment of everyone who doesn’t fit into a ...
Lifestyle, Queer Life and Culture

Why Lipstick Lesbian is a Problematic Phrase

By Dannie Levine It’s National Lipstick Day which means it’s time for me to smash some more ideas and thoughtless ideas. Today we’re tackling the phrase “lipstick lesbian” and why it’s so problematic and why you really shouldn’t use it ever. Like, ever again. It’s antiquated and heteronormative af. It comes from this heteronormative need to label and classify everything that mainstream society ...
Lifestyle, Queer Life and Culture, Style

Femme Style as Politics and Attitude | My Outfit is My Statement

Is style political? Absolutely. When we get dressed in the morning, the clothing we put on is the armour we wear to face the world. It can (and should be!)  be a means of self expression, but it often also makes a political statement. When a certain famed talk show host tells the world that you shouldn’t wear a crop top if you have a tummy, any time a tummy owner wears one they are making a statement in direct contrast. Any time Alok ...
Lifestyle, Queer Life and Culture, Style

Wife Life | Body Positivity and Mass Media

By Ari Levine I Feel Pretty (But Only After a Concussion) – Body Positivity isn’t a Joke Recently, trailers for a new Amy Schumer movie have taken over my social feeds. The movie — which I’m not linking because I don’t want to give them the views or traffic– focuses on Schumer’s character hitting her head in a SoulCycle class and suddenly seeing herself as beautiful and being confident in her body for the first time, ...
Lifestyle, Queer Life and Culture

My Femme Isn’t Weak. Your Inability to Accept it is.

By Dannie Levine My Femme Isn’t Weak. Your Inability to Accept it is. In my teen and college years, I dated men. I know, the most vocal, confident, and proud lesbian of them all dated men. Would you believe it’s because I thought I was supposed to? Sure I knew I wasn’t entirely straight. I mean have you seen Kiera Knightley? [fans self] But I didn’t fit into any of the stereotypes I’d seen of queer women. I wasn’t the proud owner of a closet ...
Lifestyle, Queer Life and Culture, Style

Women’s History Month and Femme Identity | Celebrating ALL Women

By Dannie Levine It’s Women’s History Month! Over at Stile.Foto.Cibo we love celebrating Women’s History Month, but our team is made up of cisgendered women, so it’s a celebration created with us in mind. And that’s alright! Women’s history is definitely something to celebrate. It’s a long and arduous road that we’ve come down to get where we are, and there’s still a long road ahead of us  to get where we deserve to be. A large part of ...
Lifestyle, Queer Life and Culture

14 Valentine’s Day Date Ideas that Don’t Suck

  Real talk, Valentine’s Day kind of sucks, especially for queer couples. With all this corporate heteronormativity everywhere and the idea that you have to spend loads of money to do the day properly, expectations get unreasonably high too quickly and nobody has a good time. So throw away the fancy dinner, flowers, chocolates, etc. and plan a date you’ll both actually enjoy. 14 Valentine’s Day Date Ideas that Don’t Suck ...
Lifestyle, Queer Life and Culture

Finding Queer-Friendly Third Space in a Cup of Coffee | Ridman’s Coffee

It Always Comes Back to Coffee, Ridman’s Coffee There’s a new coffee shop on the North Side. Head West down Lawrence to Clark and you’ll stumble on new signage there on the Southwest side of the intersection. Ridman’s Coffee may be the new kids on the block but they certainly know what they’re doing. Beautifully yet simply designed space, Dark Matter coffee, vegan-friendly, and a whole mess of inclusivity. From the restrooms ...
Lifestyle, Queer Life and Culture, Style

Christmas Date #2- Joffrey Nutcracker at the Auditorium

I’m a fan of holiday traditions. My personal one is seeing the Nutcracker every year. It started during my semester in London with a Matthew Bourne adaptation (so good, highly recommend!) and has continued here in Chicago with the Joffrey Ballet’s presentation. This is now the second year my lady has come with. I love having an excuse to get all dressed up, go to dinner, and see a show. Bringing her with just makes the tradition ...
Lifestyle, Queer Life and Culture

Christmas Date – Zoo Lights at Lincoln Park Zoo

Christmas has been in the air since before Thanksgiving here in Chicago. I don’t like to cross my holidays, though, so I always insist on waiting until after Thanksgiving to partake in anything Christmas related. one of my favorite holiday traditions is going to a light display at one of the two zoos in the Chicago area.  This year, we ventured to Lincoln Park Zoo for a holiday date night that will be difficult to beat. The evening ...